I have written some of this in my book, which will likely not happen, because I don’t know how to do the editing the way the publisher wants it. And some things are better my children are saved from.
I was a mental health in patient, more than once, over many months. I maintain that this is a different relationship with mental health services than anyone who only encounters primary care professionals.
In my first EVER admission, which lasted approximately 6 months, I experienced many facets of in patient life. 6 months is a long time to continuously see and experience staff and patients.
I am Bipolar. There *is* a level of risky behaviour inherent in being Bipolar. At no point to I claim to have been a good, or polite or compliant patient. I DO claim to have been ill (surely the NHS would not spend money keeping me in hospital otherwise) and, this illness is on which does have significant impacts and implications for behaviour.
So, I admit to being non compliant with medication (which turned out to be useful, since antidepressants cause me to switch in to serious mania), I admit to ONE, consensual, sexual relationship with one other patient.
When I was admitted, I was in a full time job, with sick pay. Some months full pay, some more months half pay. I lived alone and was relatively new to the area in which I lived. I was already taking, and being monitored on Lithium. I was also told by the admitting staff that I would be in hospital for the weekend. I didn’t have the experience to know that was a lie.
The mental health unit I was admitted to was a mixed unit.
When I first got there, I was extremely quiet and scared. There were very few things to do, hardly any therapeutic groups, occasional art based occupational therapy. (I was lucky, I even got to work with the student art therapist) Mostly, the opportunities were limited to smoking, talking and hiding.
If you don’t know, and, you know, why would you? When you arrive in hospital, alone, they make a list of everything you have with you, down to what underwear you have on. Then they keep you in hospital until you get well enough to embark on a range of time out, from an hour to the local shop and back, a morning / afternoon, a day, and eventually over night stays away from hospital.
Many people get visitors, and there is time set aside every day and most of the weekends for this. I did not get a huge amount of visitors. My family were hundreds of miles away, and most of my friends were too frightened.
6 months is a long stay. Not, by any means the longest stay, but, enough to see a lot of people come and go, and enough to build relationships with people who are there.
So, I have stories. Things that happened, things I saw, things that were said to me. I also want to be clear that I understand that patients in an inpatient setting are ill. They need care. So, my complaints are not at the patients, who were struggling, and ill, and trying to cope with lives that have not worked out quite as they would hope.
One of the things that happened, about half way through my stay was that a patient picked me up and dropped me on a concrete external floor. My wrist was broken. I sat and waited for meds to handed to everyone, and shift change handover to happen, before I could be taken to the hospital for X-rays and plaster casting. I ended up in plaster for 12 weeks. I am not sure if part of that was because I was an in-patient. It DID mean, and my consultant told me, that I stayed in hospital longer, because they wouldn’t send me home to be alone with a broken arm, which I am pretty sure is not how A&E would have worked. Why remove liberty for YOUR lack of care? Why choose THEN to play the stupid game in which no one helps you unless you ASK? I never learnt so quickly to eat one handed, to tuck shoe laces in, and to wear bras longer than usual, because there are all things it is not what I want to ask some nurse I don’t know to help with. How is allowing this to happen what amounts to care?
I met a lot of people while I was there. I was there long enough to get to know them, to meet their families. I was without visitors, so, patients were kind, their visitors shared food, they recognised how it might be. I got close to some of them. I had a very brief relationship with one of them. It was sexual in nature. I personally don’t feel like this is too indicative of illness, sharing space all the time with people for months, does lead healthy people to form relationships. It didn’t work out, but, relationships don’t always and that’s normal too. I mean, it might be that I am more likely to form sexual relationships given some illness, but, it is not, by any stretch way far from normal.
After that, a male patient was admitted, who was unwell, part of his unwellness, as far as I could tell, (giving the benefit of the doubt, since I was told he couldn’t help it) was to inappropriately engage with women on the unit, whether that be verbally, or by actually touching inappropriately. I was part of a group that went to the office to complain that we didn’t feel safe, and didn’t like being touched and spoken to like that. It is after all the responsibility of the staff that people are safe. Everyone there is vulnerable, not just him.
I was held back after that meeting. Kept in the office on my own. Informed by the manager that I, *especally*, could NOT complain about his behaviour towards me, It wasn’t possible for someone to behave inappropriately to me. I had had sex with a patient, so how could anything anyone did to me be inappropriate or scary?
I can’t believe, looking back, that I took this. That I accepted that I must deserve any thing that anyone wanted to do to me, because, that’s what my diagnosis means. This is appalling! This came direct form the manager of the unit, so there was no where to go complaint wise anyway. Not that I was in a position to cope with everything else and complain. I was too busy trying to get out of hospital and back to MY life with my job.
Every week, I asked. I am willing to admit I may have initially been ill enough to not be allowed to work, but, I also needed to work to pay for the normal living expenses. Every week, they would say, “Maybe next week.” So, I never even thought about needing to apply for any benefits. Why would I? This was my first ever admission. I didn’t have people around me to advise on what would actually happen.
So, eventually, I asked what they expected me to do, when my sick pay went down to half and I couldn’t afford my rent? “Why did you not apply for benefits, what did you expect would happen?” So, not only did they expect me to KNOW THEY WERE LYING every time they told me I could go home soon, but they expected me to know I would need benefits after they destroyed my life that didn’t need any benefits before. PLUS, they expected me to be well enough to figure all of this out WHILE I was, according to *them*, too ill to even cope with sleeping in my own bed.
This doesn’t even cover the discrimination my diagnosis caused AT work, or, in applying for training, from universities and such, this is just in the one place you might imagine you will be safe and cared for.
This is what psychiatric hospital was like for me as an inpatient. Even to the fact that, when I was discharged, it was simply because, I came back from a night away, and they had put a new, sicker patient in my bed, bagged up my possessions, dumped them in the office, and told me there was no bed for me when I got back, but, if I stayed away for another night, I could have a bed. MY argument was that, SURELY, if I was sick enough to be there, and they were unhappy to send me home, because of that, how could they bag up my stuff and tell me there was no room for me? So, they had to admit that I could go home, and that is how I was discharged, unceremoniously, and all in a rush.
I don’t want to dissuade people from getting help. But, perhaps it matters to share what it actually can be like. People in mental health units are still PEOPLE, and that is important.